Navigate through the wild fields of your child’s next temper tantrum with these three simple, painless strategies. “Dr. Laura Markham, a clinical psychologist at Columbia University – and mom who has road tested this stuff – says that to raise a child with high emotional intelligence you need to do four things: Make them feel secure when they’re babies, let them feel feelings, problem solve instead of punish, and constantly be empathizing.” Of these strategies, we pull three different ways that you can easily handle your child’s next temper tantrum with grace.
“Act like a leader.” When you lead your child, you can help to dictate their behavior instantly and leave a long-lasting impact as well. It is so important to lead your child in the right direction so that they will understand and feel their emotions in the entirety of them because that will help them understand life in general more thoroughly. If they don’t understand what they are feeling, they will not be able to understand what the rest of the world around them is feeling. “What most parents don’t understand is that EQ is much more important to your child’s success in life than IQ,” says Markham. When your child understands emotions they will understand a vital cog of how this world works.
2) Stay calm.
“If you want to raise a kid who is calm, you need to chill out. Don’t let them start mirroring those bad habits you expose when you’re driving, working, paying taxes, and watching youth soccer.” When you are stressed out, it is important that you try to step back and look at your life. Take a step outside and go for a walk. Leave your work stress at work as much as possible. Don’t let your child pick up on your stress because that will become stress that they begin to embody. “As an adult, you have other constructive ways of dealing with stress that don’t involve crumpling to the floor and pounding your fists.”