Avoiding this habit will help you avoid failure. What habit? High expectations. When you give yourself unreasonably high expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. The idea here is that, “expectations are resentments under construction.” What this means is that the expectations you set for yourself are set because they stem from something you resent. Therefore, when you fail to meet high expectations, you will fail to fix whatever in your life you resent – which may end up pushing you to resent that even more.
Rather than setting up high expectations, give yourself goals and acknowledge that they will take time and effort to reach. If you want to be president one day, set that as a goal. However, don’t make it an expectation.
When you are looking to set yourself up for success, you need to realize that you have to give yourself the reasonable tools or the area to grow these tools before you will be able to reach these expectations. “When we develop expectations, we paint a vivid picture in our head of how things are going to be, look and feel, and – riskiest of all – how the people around us will behave and respond.” You set these ideas and you imagine the praise that will follow. When you fail to meet the unreasonably high expectation and you fail to receive the praise, you become disappointed.
Therefore, check your expectations. Learn the difference between goals and expectations and learn that the goals you set can be as far-reaching as you want – as long as you do not expect yourself to reach every single one of them.