If you are wondering what is wrong in your marriage, there is a big chance that it might be the way in which you and your significant other communicate with each other. In his above video, Courtship After Marriage: “Be Ye Kind to One Another,” Zig Ziglar discusses the flaws in marital communications. He claims, “Communication is one of the major problems in a marriage.” Why? Most of the time people aren’t even listening to one another speak.
“The most frequently cited cause of women’s anger (in marriage) was, ’he doesn’t listen.’ 71% of the women surveyed,” in research that Ziglar draws upon in the video to support his arguments, “had said they had given up… they’re not going to try to talk to” their husbands anymore. “He just won’t listen.” The thing is, the biggest problem in marriage today is frequently not just communication but how you communicate. Your body language is key, and that is something many people tend to forget about.
Body language is more than just looking at your partner when they are speaking. Sure, it is important to do that. “Look them in the eye if the conversation is involving more than a couple of sentences,” but beyond that it is important to physically turn to your partner as well. “Sit up and learn forward. Show that you are interested in what is going on.” Allow your partner to speak and allow yourself to listen. Don’t cut them off too soon and don’t turn away until they are done.