What will make or break your children is simple, yet surprisingly powerful. In the Ziglar Podcast, How have you been programmed?, we have the opportunity to hear Zig Ziglar speak about the power of words and how they influence the people around us – including our children. Ziglar asserts, “The spoken word has the power to influence in an unbelievable manner and degree.” He talks to us about the importance of how your words influence the people around you and this is perhaps the most important thing for parents to learn. When it comes to learning what will make or break your children, one of the most significant factors is the way in which you speak to them as they are growing up.
“Words can be so enormously important,” because of their power to influence. “The difference in the words can make a difference.” This is because when you choose the words you use to describe, speak to, and interact with or around people, you are projecting an image. You are showing them who you are and you are showing them who you think they are. “The language we use can have a substantial impact on a person’s life. The language we use on ourselves can have an even greater impact on a person’s life.” Speak to yourself and teach your kids to speak to themselves with respect, love and affection. Remind them that they are allowed to have confidence and to voice their own opinions, and that they are the product of their own thoughts and decisions – not of the words of other people.
In a world where people are constantly telling us who to be and how to act, it is vital that parents teach their children to take control of their own voice and to exercise control. “The way people talk is the best indication of how they think.” When you teach your kids this lesson, you are teaching them to be careful about their own words so that they speak with intention. You are teaching them to be conscious of what they hear from others and you are teaching them to seek the differentiation between other peoples’ opinions and their own so that the two do not become intertwined.
Your child will be able to learn to have confidence and push away negative influences if you just teach them the power of words. Teach them to speak with kindness and that they have the ability to influence others and control influence upon themselves if they just take note of who is saying something and how much it actually matters.